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One mixed up Vegan

Hi all. I have been vegan for about a month and vegetarian for about 10 months. It all started at a county fair in Texas that my late wife and I were visiting. After meandering around and petting all the livestock that were heading for their inevitable doom, I turned to my wife and told her I could not do it anymore. We stopped eating pork and beef that day and lived off of seafood and poultry.
About two or three weeks later, I was driving in my work truck down a Texas highway when an 18 wheeler merged in front of me with it's  payload of a million chickens lying on their sides in the inadequate little cages,...feathers flying. Well, that night I went home and told my wife of the horrible thing I had witnessed and we stopped eating poultry and seafood.
Three months ago I lost my beloved wife of 7 years to suicide. She had struggled with bulimia since she was 14, and more recently also struggled with alcoholism. It was her third attempt in the last year, the first two I was able to save her. Barely. The third time, she made sure it stuck.
I moved back to Cincinnati immediatley after my loss, and have been struggling to keep on keeping on ever since. I finally put my head down and broke my addiction to cheese and have been doing very well with my new diet for over a month now. I'm really glad I found this site, it has been really incitefull in learning how to maintain a healthy lifestyle and to discover new recipes.

I am so sorry for your loss! Wow, it sounds like you have been through a lot.

I encourage you to continue to reach out--and I think the VegWeb community is full of great, supportive people too.

Please be gentle with yourself, and it sounds like you are doing really well, especially considering what you've gone through.
You have a great heart, to be sure.
Much love to you...and keep up the great work with your healthy diet--it can only help you in every way!!

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My sincere condolences.  We're glad to have you with us.  Welcome and good luck!

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Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. Let us know if you need any help, vegan-related or otherwise!

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you are pulling things together. Welcome to VegWeb and Ohio.

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I'm so sorry for your loss!  I'm also in Ohio (Akron/Canton area)...  welcome to Vegweb!

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CherBear,

Hello neighbor! I'm in Akron, too and its sooo damn cold right now.

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Thank's for the warm welcome! I have been reading through the recipes on this site for the last month and just recently noticed the REST of the tabs at the top of the page. What a great website with great members. Thank you . Btw, hespedal, the smile you have in your avi is absolutely inspirational!

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Sorry for your loss.  Welcome to our community.  If you need help with anything there are so many people here to help. Best of luck in everything.

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i wish u all the best i am so so sorry about your wife :( u can pull through this

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Hey, I kinda know what you're going through.....my alcoholic mom completed suicide 16 years ago on Thanksgiving. If you want/need/desire a sym/empathetic ear, let me know.

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Welcome, PL!... there's good folks here; friends make crappy stuff more bearable, I think. You're among friends!

PS-- We're *all* 'mixed up'... show me someone who claims otherwise, & I'll show you a delusional human. We're all just doing the best we can, despite our mixed-up-ness . So, you aren't alone!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. I've struggled with bulimia since I was 16 (now 21) and it's one of those things that's sooo hard to deal with and overcome. I've lost 2 friends to suicide and I can't imagine what you're going through, hang in there though and welcome to the site, I'm new here myself

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Puppyluva. I can't imagine what you went through and are going through.

I hope that you'll find VegWeb a healthy, maybe even therapeutic, site that can point you in the right direction for all things veg. If I can ever be of any help, please don't hesitate to shoot me an email.

Best,
WebMistress Laura

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hespedal, the smile you have in your avi is absolutely inspirational!

*blush* thank you.

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best of luck to you, I'm so sorry about your wife!  This site is like therapy for alot of us!!

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hahahahahahah...  I love the Pom-a-shit. 

I so get that...

Nice to meet you!

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My heart goes out to you at the loss of your wife. I wish I had more words of comfort to offer, but you are most definitely welcome here to talk about anything, vegan related or otherwise! I've recently joined this site and found it to be full of kind souls.

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