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last nite jason asked me if i wanted to move in with him. i said yes. so 2 morrow im going to call social security to see about getting a new card (zack threw mine out along with my stuff) so i can get a new id and merrick's birthcertificate. im a little stressed b/c a week ago my brother moved back in and he has made it so that i have basically 56k modem speed (mom has dsl) to prevent me from dl stuff. but so far he has been getting along with jason. hopefully after i get the paperwork that i need to fill out for merrick's birthcertificate we will be able to get it without zack. lol, we found out that merrick is attached to jason (with them knowing eachother for only a couple of months) b/c he didnt want jason to go after jason came over to tell me his van was about to fall apart. i know that unlike zack he will get a car that doesnt need much work on it if the van breaks down for good.
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Uh, do you really think that it's a good idea to move in with a guy that you've only been dating for a couple of months? You have a child to take care of. Is it in his best interest? You have to provide your son with a stable and loving home. That kid is your first and most important responsibility. And, by the way, you're going to have to go to the Social Security office in person, and you should probably take your birth certificate and some form of ID with you.
i have known jason for 6 yrs. merrick is and will be in a stable home. i cant apply in person b/c i dont have my id (zack threw it out along with some of my other stuff) and i did try to get it back but b/c i dont know the detective's/police officer's name i cant get my stuff back. jason unlike merrick's dad (zack) has been there for merrick and i since i have known him, jason is more responsible about his money than zack is. he knows that we will only buy stuff when we need it, wont go to the movies or get anything xtra if we dont have the money for it. he knows that merrick comes first, then us, then whatever else.
Just sayin. You've known the guy for 6 years, okay. But you have still only been dating for a couple of months. At that point in a relationship, everything's fine. What makes you so sure that you both will feel the same way in a few more months? All of the "what if's" and "maybe's" need to be thought out. You should think everything through well if your decisions only affect you, but especially when you have a child. Just because he is more responsible with money than Zack is doesn't mean you should move your child and yourself in with him yet. You just sound like you need to get your own act together before signing up for a serious relationship that will affect your son.
jason asked me if i wanted to move in with him. i said yes. so 2 morrow im going to call social security to see about getting a new card
I'm not really sure why going to get a new social security card card is related to moving in with Jason.
As in... he wants you to move in and so, now you can go get a new card....? Why didn't you go get one before?
I don't understand why you haven't gone to get a new ID and social security card regardless of moving in with someone else.
I agree with Tkitty96, maybe you should get everything together on your own and for you own sake independent of moving in with anyone.
Then you can make that choice with a completely clear mind knowing that you have everything done and sorted already.
If I were you, my life would be dedicated to knowing who that detective/police officer was and getting my identity back (regardless of Jason, regardless of Zack) I'd go to the police station and ask to see a photo of the department and see if I recognized the officer, or stand in the waiting room all day until I saw the officer and read his name tag. If you ask for help they'll help you. Look the case up under Zack's name. It can't 'disappear'...
I have a two year old too, and if I went to the police station and let him play with his toys loudly in the waiting room until someone helped me I have a feeling I'd get some answers or help quick.
I have a two year old too, and if I went to the police station and let him play with his toys loudly in the waiting room until someone helped me I have a feeling I'd get some answers or help quick.
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Jennifer,
You crack me up sometimes.....thanks! ;)
Best of luck to you karone 04.
thanx. i do think its the best thing for the both of us. i have to call the social security office so that i can get another id and so we can apply for food stamps. after we get settled there i will look for a job at the library or one of the other places within walking distance.
A mature individual would take responsibility for his or her life, and his or her actions leading up to the point that he or she is currently at. You need to get your ID business all taken care of and get a job. Continue to date Jason, there's nothing wrong with that. But you need to make certain that the relationship is healthy and fulfilling before you drastically change your son's life. I know you don't like hearing this, but I think it's what you need to be told, rather than a bunch of wishes for good luck. Make your own luck and take control of your life, if not for you, then for your kid.
Good luck and god bless, karone.
But you need to make certain that the relationship is healthy and fulfilling before you drastically change your son's life. I know you don't like hearing this, but I think it's what you need to be told, rather than a bunch of wishes for good luck. Make your own luck and take control of your life, if not for you, then for your kid.
This is very wise advise. I hope you take it to heart.
I know you don't need any criticisms cause I know things are very tough right now but you'll get by don't worry.
I'm not criticizing anyone. I'm just pointing out that she is waiting for life to get better. Life gets better when you get out there and MAKE it better.
Do you understand TKitty she is going for food stamps she has no food? Do you understand how tough things are? You may mean well I don't deny that but it's coming off as passing judgement and to that person it's demoralizing for a person to talk to them like that when they are in that state.
I understand that she's going for food stamps... because she has no job. She has been going on about "Woe is me..." at least since February when she thought that she was pregnant again. Karone4 doesn't bother to pick herself up to make her situation better, she'd rather whine about how poorly Zack treated her. She continues to see herself as a victim. Seems like she needs somebody to tell her that at this time, she is causing her own hardships. See this thread: http://vegweb.com/index.php?topic=14748.0
Tkitty you are entitled to your opinion just as I am in wishing her good luck.
Do you understand TKitty she is going for food stamps she has no food? Do you understand how tough things are? You may mean well I don't deny that but it's coming off as passing judgement and to that person it's demoralizing for a person to talk to them like that when they are in that state.
Just because things are tough doesn't mean she should move in with her boyfriend. That would be ridiculous.
I hate to be so harsh but, food stamps aside, GO GET YOU SOCIAL SECURITY CARD AND ID be an adult and a parent. That has nothing to do with money.
I think Tkitty said what many of us have been wanting to say to this girl for quite some time, and she's right.
Yes, she does see herself as victim, and she may very well have been. But now she can take charge of her life and do something about it.
I think Tkitty is just sick of the "boohoo" stuff. I know Tkitty has young kids as well. In that other thread Karone04 talked about no one helping her watch her son while she cleaned floors... I don't feel sorry for her... I have to clean things too, (all the time!) as I'm sure Tkityy96 does as well! And I have a child the same age and RARELY since my husband is often gone (unfortunately, for very long periods of time) do I have someone to watch him while I clean, or EVER for that matter. Does that suck, yeah.... but NEWSFLASH that's what being a parent entails.
I tried to say this is a nice way before but.... Grow up Karone04 and get you own act together or you will just move in with Jason and complain about how things turn out there. Be happy and whole on your own and then you can be happy and whole alongside someone else.... not because of them. Being happy and whole means doing things for yourself and the betterment of your child like getting your ID and all that. Yes, it's annoying. Yes, it sucks that Zack took it. But just DO IT.
By the way, you shouldn't carry your social security card with you (in your wallet) it should be stored in a safe place.
I just thought of something, if Zack DID throw it out I'd be worry about identity theft! I can't even imagine you having to deal with that...
Giving advice doesn't mean you get to humiliate a person or someone else's advice.
Quote from TKitty- A mature individual would take responsibility for his or her life and his or her actions leading up to the point that he or she is currently at."
A mature individual huh? How old do you think someone is to be talked to like that? I think she said she was going to try to get a job at the library.
Quote from TKitty- "I know you don't like hearing this, but I think it's what you need to be told rather than a bunch of wishes for good luck."
That's not making fun of someone else's advice?
Not only was karone criticized but TKitty also criticized a person giving advice to her.
Not only was karone criticized but TKitty also criticized a person giving advice to her.
Tkitty didn't criticized any advice. Wishing someone luck is not "advice"
No one else gave her advice... In fact, Tkitty and I were the only ones who advised anything. (Sorry, Saskia also quoted Tkitty's advice and agreed.)
I don't think Tkitty is judging Karone04 she's saying, "Get your sh*t together."
It doesn't matter how old she is... she's is a mom. She made she made the choice to become one and now she needs to act like it.
Not only was karone criticized but TKitty also criticized a person giving advice to her.
Tkitty didn't criticized any advice. Wishing someone luck is not "advice"
No one else gave her advice... In fact, Tkitty and I were the only ones who advised anything. (Sorry, Saskia also quoted Tkitty's advice and agreed.)
I don't think Tkitty is judging Karone04 she's saying, "Get your sh*t together."
It doesn't matter how old she is... she's is a mom. She made she made the choice to become one and now she needs to act like it.
She did criticize that's passing judgement. And that's my advice to her good luck. That's what I want to wish her.
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