how do u calm yourself down?
i am so angry right now. i called in sick to work today because i'm really not feeling well at all (havent been for a while) and i get a voicemail from my boss, bakery manager.
next weekend my BF Dean and i are going out of town, we're leaving friday afternoon. i have her 3 weeks notice that i needed saturday and sunday off, and that i couldnt work past 2pm on friday. i got sat and sun off but she scheduled me til 6pm on friday. i talked to HER manager, Rick, yesterday and he said it was fine for me to work til 2.
get a voicemail from mary (my boss) and she says "sorry but i'm gonna have to have you work til 6 that day"
she does this EVERY TIME i need a day like that, its like shes purposely screwing with me and wants to make me miserable. ever since i came back to the bakery (i have more experience back there than she does) she's been mean to me and nice to the other 2 girls. when they need special hours on a certain day or days off, its no problem. but when i do, she just screws me over.
a few months ago i had to go to Dean's sisters wedding and i gave her notice then, too. i approached her about how she had me scheduled til night time AGAIN when i asked her for a short morning shift, and she said okay and fixed it. then the next day i went to get my paycheck and another manager said something about how mary called her and told her to switch my hours BACK to being there til late at night, causing me to miss the wedding.
im so sick of this... icant quit cuz i dont have any other experience, i never graduated from college, i've worked there for over 6 years...
but being so angry is making me sick to my stomach and i dont know how to calm myself down...
/rant
i would just say that you're working the hours that you and rick planned. if her boss says it's ok then it should be. also - tell rick whats going on and have him let her know that he is in charge - not her. she is being insubordinate to him if she's telling you to do something that he told you not to do.. ie. stay at work til 6.
I think you deserve to order a new video to deal with this nasty woman at the bakery.
lol you are enabling my shop-to-relieve-stress habit! ;) i like it! lol
my mom said the same thing, i need to go in tomorrow and talk to the other managers. for all i know, she did talk to rick but all he told her was that he okayed it for me to work til 2pm. and we're guessing that she is pissed off because since i called out sick today, she got called in to work
im just getting really tired of this happening every time
*goes off to look at yoga videos*
that is awful sariea. it sounds as if she feels threatened in her position by you, and is trying to demonstrate that she is 'in charge' so that you 'know.' does that make any sense? i am in a job that the boss does that because he is very young (and he is also a sexist ass) so he is a completely obnoxious ass to anyone who will put up with it in order to exert his position. stay strong, girl! don't let her get to you, it sounds as if you can get by just working until 2, so do it, and write a letter to her boss telling about the irresponsible things she is doing (if you just don't like her in general) if she is generally ok, other than a couple incidents, i'd say talk to her about it.
I'm sorry. Your boss sounds like a big pain in the butt. I agree with other posters that she is trying to show you that she is 'in charge' and also trying to punish you for calling out of work sick. I suppose she would rather have you contaminating food with sick germs.
I understand how you feel. Certainly yoga will help you feel better.
QUIT! I think its ridiculous that you both :
a) think you can't do anything else because you didn't graduate from college and this is all you've ever done.
and
b) put up with that crap
referring to A....if no one ever stepped outside of the box of what they were doing, no one in this world would have gotten anywhere. If you want to be a baker for the rest of your life, then fine. Thats one thing. But feeling stuck in this job because you've done it for so long is just plain crazy. You're 23 years old, and you have held a single position for 6 years. That is HUGE for your age, you'd be a gem in any other job. Bosses love that kind of loyalty.
I think B speaks for itself. She doesn't deserve your respect.
Quit!
Oh! And if you have more experience there and she has been hired to manage over you?
Yeah, another reason to quit.
QUIT! I think its ridiculous that you both :
a) think you can't do anything else because you didn't graduate from college and this is all you've ever done.
and
b) put up with that crap
referring to A....if no one ever stepped outside of the box of what they were doing, no one in this world would have gotten anywhere. If you want to be a baker for the rest of your life, then fine. Thats one thing. But feeling stuck in this job because you've done it for so long is just plain crazy. You're 23 years old, and you have held a single position for 6 years. That is HUGE for your age, you'd be a gem in any other job. Bosses love that kind of loyalty.
I think B speaks for itself. She doesn't deserve your respect.
Quit!
totally. dont put up with that crap. your career should be enjoyable! find something that you enjoy with people that you enjoy. you could at least stay there until you find a better job. but start looking.
whenever i get crap from my co workers, i just go to their boss, the principal, and she sorts everything out. your boss is not doing her job, but its not your job to deal with that, its her bosses job. tell him!
I am sorry to hear you're going through this Sariea.
You sound like a loyal, talented and hard working employee. Your boss sounds like she's on a power trip.
Once her supervisor OKs the time off, then stick with your plans. If she tries to jerk your chain and say you need to work, tell her "sorry," you have already made a commitment and are unable to change your plans. Let her know her supervisor also approved this(better if you can get this in an e-mail so you have some documentation), and enjoy your time with family, boyfriend, etc.
In the meantime, start job-hunting, create a strong resume, and make sure you have someone at work who can write you a letter of recommendation, or whom you can use as a referral, if needed.
Your skills and work ethic are valuable. Your boss obviously doesn't make you feel like a valued employee. No one's talents are limited to just one workplace. Go find an employer who appreciates and respects you and quit. You will be in a much happier place.
if you're financially stable enough to quit, go for it (but if you need the money, hold on to that job... for now). like the other posters said, start job hunting. work on your resume, practice interview skills. what do you want to do? where do you want to work?
the thing is.. i dont know. i talked about this with my boyfriend tonight---i feel like i have nowhere else to go. and if it weren't for mary, i would absolutely LOVE my job because there wouldn't be anyone pushing me around and taking advantage of the fact that i will not take breaks to make sure the work gets done while she and the other girls take as many breaks as they want....
i'm not financially secure. in 2 weeks i'm gonna start making payments on a new car since my other one died.
and i don't think i could do a desk job. one of the things i love about my bakery job is all the exercise i get.
and as for what i want to do... i want to be a nutritionist and work in a gym... but i am deathly afraid of crowded places like schools and get frustrated when i think about all the classes i'll have to take that have nothing to do with nutrition...
i'm in a hard situation... and my mom tells me to be confident tomorrow but its hard for me to. i can plan what i'm gonna say until the cows come home but as soon as i get to work tomorrow, my mind will go blank and i'll shrink back like i always do, and probably cry, which i hate, because it makes everyone not take me serioiusly because i'm "just emotional"
and i REALLY want to just go in there and say "no" and stand by that, and let her know that she can't f*ck me around anymore... but i have serious doubts when it comes to my own confidence
*sigh*... :-\
the thing is.. i dont know. i talked about this with my boyfriend tonight---i feel like i have nowhere else to go. and if it weren't for mary, i would absolutely LOVE my job because there wouldn't be anyone pushing me around and taking advantage of the fact that i will not take breaks to make sure the work gets done while she and the other girls take as many breaks as they want....
i'm not financially secure. in 2 weeks i'm gonna start making payments on a new car since my other one died.
and i don't think i could do a desk job. one of the things i love about my bakery job is all the exercise i get.
and as for what i want to do... i want to be a nutritionist and work in a gym... but i am deathly afraid of crowded places like schools and get frustrated when i think about all the classes i'll have to take that have nothing to do with nutrition...
i'm in a hard situation... and my mom tells me to be confident tomorrow but its hard for me to. i can plan what i'm gonna say until the cows come home but as soon as i get to work tomorrow, my mind will go blank and i'll shrink back like i always do, and probably cry, which i hate, because it makes everyone not take me serioiusly because i'm "just emotional"
and i REALLY want to just go in there and say "no" and stand by that, and let her know that she can't f*ck me around anymore... but i have serious doubts when it comes to my own confidence
*sigh*... :-\
Your boss is a bully and realizes you do not like confrontation. You may want to keep track of all of the things you do that are above and beyond your job duties. Then, when you have a special request, remind her (and her boss if necessary) of why you really do deserve it. I am sorry you are in such a hostile environment. Take care of yourself.