I asked a boy out!
Posted by VegHeadZealia on Oct 25, 2008 · Member since Mar 2007 · 1665 posts
Today, for the first time in my life, I asked a boy out. Hes in my math class and I was scared stiff. But I did it any ways...we are going to a dog expo tomorrow...haha...cause why not....ermm... okay...
That is all.
Seriously, VHZ, he was probably as nervous as you were. I didn't know people still shook hands after meeting someone's roomies or whatever. I thought you just said, "Goodbye, see you again." But some people retreat into formal social gestures when they're nervous. You weren't to know.
all my best dates have included sharp objects >:D
*swoon*
We went and I had a good time...glad i asked and glad he said yes. Now we are texting back and forth pictures of the jack-o-lanterns we made (not together)
I'm the most socially awkward person ever. When he left he shook Zoe's hand and he BFs and then shifted and shook mine...when he left Zoe adn Red were like "wow that was harsh Zeal, he leaned in to give you a hug and you practically karate chopped him with your handshake...." and i realized they were right! I was just so nervous I ....stuck my hand out...IDK....arg. lol!
hehe...that's so cute. but I agree with YG, he was probably just as nervous as you were!
I'm glad you had a good time yesterday! You'll have to let us know how this progresses..... ^-^
More girls should try asking out guys, a little bit of variation is sweet ;)b
now the question is...do i ask him out for the second time??? We've been sitting together every class and i keep hinting I'd like to do something sometime..."well, i think ill head across the street and grab a coffee...what are you up to?" But he doesn't respond...hummm....
maybe hes not interested? maybe he is shy? Maybe he's not picking up on the signals....
what should i do?
Maybe he has class or work or something to do afterwards. So ask him out and pick a time but be flexible. "Would you like to go <insert activity/place/idea here> with me on Thursday?"
Be slightly specific. Have an idea. Smile and thank him no matter what he says. If he says "no" then so be it. If he says "Thursday isn't good for me." say something like "Well let me know what day would be good for you."
Good luck!!!!
Congratulations! :)
You'll never forget your first dog expo date :)
lol
i think you should ask! if he says no, you can always play it off as casual....but i bet he'll say yes! ;)
guys are usually hoping that a girl will make the first move...especially if you guys have still been talking every day. i bet he just hasn't picked up on your hints.
you'll never regret trying! ;)b
good luck!
I can tell you from first hand experience that every time a girl asked me out, I was thrilled. A few really caught me off guard, not knowing that they felt that way about me. Sometimes, the other person has no idea. And let's face it- some men are very shy and are actually hoping you'll ask them out. I think that's great you showed the initiative. And I'm sure he loved it too!
I can tell you from first hand experience that every time a girl asked me out, I was thrilled. A few really caught me off guard, not knowing that they felt that way about me. Sometimes, the other person has no idea. And let's face it- some men are very shy and are actually hoping you'll ask them out. I think that's great you showed the initiative. And I'm sure he loved it too!
there U go James!
So we conclude that men too are human, and not exempt from being shy to move first always =)
i still need to change the fact that i haven't asked anyone out.
i am now too shy.
i still need to change the fact that i haven't asked anyone out.
i am now too shy.
you are way too cute to not be asking out any boy you want!!! seriously! go ask out the next remotely interesting guy out that you meet, and then keep doing it. you will soon get so good at it and overcome your shyness that eventually the idea of asking a boy out will be completely boring. ok, well not boring but not so scary. the trick is to be totally shameless and just not care what their answer is.. there will always be another one to ask if the first one says no. just prepare yourself for them to be lame sometimes..(the first guy i asked out was in 4th grade and then he showed the note to all the boys in class, i asked one to homecoming in 11th grade - he said yes then pretty much bailed a few days earlier). or prepare yourself for them to be gay (i asked a boy out in college that i had been admiring from afar and he said 'well you can never have too many friends' and gave me his number, found out later from a friend that he was gay). and alot of them stay lame as they age.. just a few months ago i asked one out and 3 dates in he tells me he has a gf - awesome! now that i think about it i've probably done more asking out then people have asked me out, some have been good though - one did turn into a 5+yr relationship.. that ended. hmm ya know what - forget it, being single is great. but if you still want to ask a boy out, trust me - it gets sooooooo much easier with practice! you can do it hannah!!!
i still need to change the fact that i haven't asked anyone out.
i am now too shy.
you are way too cute to not be asking out any boy you want!!! seriously! go ask out the next remotely interesting guy out that you meet, and then keep doing it. you will soon get so good at it and overcome your shyness that eventually the idea of asking a boy out will be completely boring. ok, well not boring but not so scary. the trick is to be totally shameless and just not care what their answer is.. there will always be another one to ask if the first one says no. just prepare yourself for them to be lame sometimes..(the first guy i asked out was in 4th grade and then he showed the note to all the boys in class, i asked one to homecoming in 11th grade - he said yes then pretty much bailed a few days earlier). or prepare yourself for them to be gay (i asked a boy out in college that i had been admiring from afar and he said 'well you can never have too many friends' and gave me his number, found out later from a friend that he was gay). and alot of them stay lame as they age.. just a few months ago i asked one out and 3 dates in he tells me he has a gf - awesome! now that i think about it i've probably done more asking out then people have asked me out, some have been good though - one did turn into a 5+yr relationship.. that ended. hmm ya know what - forget it, being single is great. but if you still want to ask a boy out, trust me - it gets sooooooo much easier with practice! you can do it hannah!!!
Now that's a freaking pep talk! 8-)
i still need to change the fact that i haven't asked anyone out.
i am now too shy.
You're a beautiful girl and I doubt any guy would turn you down. The best thing to do is just get to know them first, have some conversations and then ask in a way where it doesn't necessarily appear like a "date". You know..."I'm going to such and such this weekend and I would really like some company because I hate going to such and such by myself...etc.....before he knows it, he's out on a date with you and falling madly in love. Ok, that may be the best case scenerio but I think you know what I mean. (lol) Good luck!
UPDATE!!!
So,last night, as I was trying to decide how and when i was going to do this asking out of the boy again, my phone rang. And Boy says..."Zealia, I wondered if you could do me a favor..." Like? "Well, with this math stuff- I'm just not sure I'm getting it..." LIES He got the highest grade last test and we both know it. :P "Wondering if maybe, we could get together this weekend and study a bit?"
Obviously I said YES!!!! Now, the thing is...I'm about 99% sure this is a cover for getting together (well, at least from what I remember of the tv shows "step by setp" and "family matters"...), BUT...obviously I'm gonna try to be all mellow about it becasue maybe he genuinely is looking for help studying... IDK... So excited though. Im tempted to try and look cute, but I NEVER look cute for class so, that would be stupid of me...ugg.
Look cute! That will give him a reason to say "Wow, you look great" and you to reply "I wanted to look cute for you." ;)
UPDATE!!!
So,last night, as I was trying to decide how and when i was going to do this asking out of the boy again, my phone rang. And Boy says..."Zealia, I wondered if you could do me a favor..." Like? "Well, with this math stuff- I'm just not sure I'm getting it..." LIES He got the highest grade last test and we both know it. :P "Wondering if maybe, we could get together this weekend and study a bit?"
Obviously I said YES!!!! Now, the thing is...I'm about 99% sure this is a cover for getting together (well, at least from what I remember of the tv shows "step by setp" and "family matters"...), BUT...obviously I'm gonna try to be all mellow about it becasue maybe he genuinely is looking for help studying... IDK... So excited though. Im tempted to try and look cute, but I NEVER look cute for class so, that would be stupid of me...ugg.
hahaha
& definitely try to look cute.. im not saying put on a 'club outfit' and get your hair did or anything, but go a couple steps beyond your 'for class' look. and if he mentions it, just thank him. (idunno about saying you wanted to look cute for him, you don't wanna give too much away..) have fun though!! and bring cookies or something to wow him with your awesome baking! you'll need 'study' snacks..
Yay! He asked you out!! Yes, look cute! And cookies are a good idea too!
i still need to change the fact that i haven't asked anyone out.
i am now too shy.
you are way too cute to not be asking out any boy you want!!! seriously! go ask out the next remotely interesting guy out that you meet, and then keep doing it. you will soon get so good at it and overcome your shyness that eventually the idea of asking a boy out will be completely boring. ok, well not boring but not so scary. the trick is to be totally shameless and just not care what their answer is.. there will always be another one to ask if the first one says no. just prepare yourself for them to be lame sometimes..(the first guy i asked out was in 4th grade and then he showed the note to all the boys in class, i asked one to homecoming in 11th grade - he said yes then pretty much bailed a few days earlier). or prepare yourself for them to be gay (i asked a boy out in college that i had been admiring from afar and he said 'well you can never have too many friends' and gave me his number, found out later from a friend that he was gay). and alot of them stay lame as they age.. just a few months ago i asked one out and 3 dates in he tells me he has a gf - awesome! now that i think about it i've probably done more asking out then people have asked me out, some have been good though - one did turn into a 5+yr relationship.. that ended. hmm ya know what - forget it, being single is great. but if you still want to ask a boy out, trust me - it gets sooooooo much easier with practice! you can do it hannah!!!
Now that's a freaking pep talk! 8-)
aww shucks.. thanks.. ::)
wanna go out sometime?
Be as cute as you're comfortable being - like if all-out cute is too much, wear an extra cute top, or do your hair extra cute, but leave the rest regular cute. I dunno. I think women look much more hot in a more natural state. I think something like excessive makeup is uncute. Maybe play up a particular feature.
wanna go out sometime?
I'm sorry, no.
;D
Yeah!
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