i feel completely worthless. and i just need a little support.
Posted by chickpea27 on Nov 13, 2007 · Member since Jul 2007 · 465 posts
i just got out of a 6 month relationship less than a week ago... he already has a new girlfriend and to top ot all of.. i've known her since the 6th grade and she's one of my best friends.
:'( he already broke my heart when he dumped me, must he make me feel this way again?
(((((chickpea)))))
We've all been there! :'( That is so awful! I don't have any great advice, but I'll be thinking about you & I promise that someday soon, you'll feel better. Maybe not today, tomorrow, or even next week--but soon! And in the end, you'll be better off. :-*
thankyou.
you give better advice than my mom. she just said, i told you you'd just get hurt. you never listen to me. blah blah blah.
Ohhh, I hate stuff like that! :( No one needs to hear that when they're already feeling down...
I'm in the process of getting out of a long term relationship as well. It hurts so bad, but I know that feelings fade.
One thing I can say is that I've gotten out of relationships in the past and I never thought I'd get over it. But now I look back and say "thank GOD I didn't stay with him!!!"
Your friend broke a BIG rule too. You can do better lady. It sucks now, but it will get better.
One thing I can say is that I've gotten out of relationships in the past and I never thought I'd get over it. But now I look back and say "thank GOD I didn't stay with him!!!"
Your friend broke a BIG rule too. You can do better lady. It sucks now, but it will get better.
No kidding! In January, I broke up with my old boyfriend of 2 1/2 years, and I seriously cried for at least a month straight! ::) I was so heartbroken, and I thought I was doomed to live my life in misery... Now I do look back & even though he was a good guy, I'm so glad we're not together anymore! It sucks to feel so helpless & sad... But I promise you'll feel better soon!
And yes--you can do better! :)
I had to searching for this youtube vlog I remembered from last spring. It's someone talking about breakups and I liked the spin she put on it. I'm not very good with words. If I was, I'd say what she's saying.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTYwW5-tAwo
:-X Let me apologize on behalf of insensitive guys everywhere for the things we do.
*hug*
my last breakup was really hard. ugh. BUT a month later, i met a boy who was nicer, who cared about me, AND he was vegan. you HAVE to get rid of the bad ones so that the good ones can come into your life : )
support support support!
there's my contribution. I can't give much advice on relationships, but I can send some supportive vibes.
support support supprt ::)
my last breakup was really hard. ugh. BUT a month later, i met a boy who was nicer, who cared about me, AND he was vegan. you HAVE to get rid of the bad ones so that the good ones can come into your life : )
YOU CAUGHT A VEGAN!!! seriously, what kind of bait did you use? do you think 20 lb test line is ok? all right i guess fishing references aren't quite appropriate for a vegan board...
chickpea, hugs, seriously. you should grab your friend by the shoulders and shake her while screaming "BROS BEFORE HOS, BROS BEFORE HOS!!!!!"
Many many hugs to you. I went through a similar situation almost a year ago. I told myself all the right things, "he wasn't good for me", "I will do better", "this will pass", "things could be so much worse." Even though I believed all those things I told myself it didn't stop the pain. Allow yourself to grieve and cry and give yourself time. We're here when you need to vent.
(((( Chickpea ))))
Hang in there and be good to yourself.
wow. thanks everyone. seriosuly.
i already feel way better just to know that people who have never met me care more than my friends and family right now. :)
I had to searching for this youtube vlog I remembered from last spring. It's someone talking about breakups and I liked the spin she put on it. I'm not very good with words. If I was, I'd say what she's saying.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTYwW5-tAwo
What a nice encouraging video :)
((((((chickpeaaaaaaaa))))))
Oh, yeah...my first boyfriend in college went out with me for months, I was crazy about him...then he breaks up with me one night, only to get engaged to my roommate the next!! I turned out to be just a way for him to get to know her because he was "too shy" to do it on his own. He was hoping to make her jealous!
SHE on the other hand was in love with him "because he looked just like her daddy" who had died a few years previously, in her adolescent years. Oh, I'll bet that was a healthy relationship...NOT.
Sounds like this guy was using you, too. He didn't deserve you, and he has no taste. (Is he an omnivore? Think of all the problems you've saved yourself, if he is.) And if he has no taste you certainly don't want to be with him.
Love you, chickpea!
i just got out of a 6 month relationship less than a week ago... he already has a new girlfriend and to top ot all of.. i've known her since the 6th grade and she's one of my best friends.
:'( he already broke my heart when he dumped me, must he make me feel this way again?
Chickpea, I'm sorry about your break-up. The wounds are fresh, and it's going to hurt for awhile. Grieving is healthy and normal, much better than jumping into a rebound relationship and never healing from the pain over time.
Based on what you shared with us, here's what I've concluded.
1) You dated a creep. Be glad you know that now, and not years later in a relationship that could have turned into a divorce statistic.
2) You dated a creep who is in a rebound relationship-- not one built on love and trust.
3) The creep is dating someone who you thought was your best friend. No true friend would treat a friend like that.
4) It seems like your ex-boyfriend and your ex-friend have issues that run far deeper than what you or I understand. I actually feel bad for them in that regard. The ex likely has trust and low self-esteem issues. Your former friend hasn't fully healed from her father's death.
5) In the situation you presented, you were the one that came out ahead. You may not realize that now, because the break-up is so recent. But you will over time and will be happy that you moved on.
Based on what you shared with us, here's what I've concluded.
1) You dated a creep. Be glad you know that now, and not years later in a relationship that could have turned into a divorce statistic.
2) You dated a creep who is in a rebound relationship-- not one built on love and trust.
3) The creep is dating someone who you thought was your best friend. No true friend would treat a friend like that.
4) It seems like your ex-boyfriend and your ex-friend have issues that run far deeper than what you or I understand. I actually feel bad for them in that regard. The ex likely has trust and low self-esteem issues. Your former friend hasn't fully healed from her father's death.
5) In the situation you presented, you were the one that came out ahead. You may not realize that now, because the break-up is so recent. But you will over time and will be happy that you moved on.
Saskia is absolutely right and I couldn't have said it any better. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this pain, but it appears you have "dodged a bullet".
As a certified member of the male species, I am here to say that ALL MEN ARE ASS-CLOWNS! Sometimes there are a few with those tiny little "Grinch" sized hearts that actually DO grow and get bigger.....big enough to have a "normal" sized heart. One full of love and compassion.....or at least that's what I've been told. ;)
Hang in there. There's plenty of fish (er... unvegan to say that?) in the sea. When you don't go looking for it...trying to find it...planning on finding it....love has a strange way of finding you. It does.
Hang in there. There's plenty of fish (er... unvegan to say that?) in the sea. When you don't go looking for it...trying to find it...planning on finding it....love has a strange way of finding you. It does.
What you mean, Dave, is there are plenty of veggies in the garden of life...she doesn't have to settle for some rotten fruit!
I'm sorry about your pain. But realize he is out of your life so that the right person can now come into your life. Hang in there. We are all here for you.
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