If I Had A Second Chance, I would....?
Someone posed this question to me at work today because she was feeling regret over certain things in her life. I know there's countless moments of retrospection in everyone's life where they say, "Man, I wish I had done THIS instead of THAT!" But is there that ONE moment or sequence of events where you look back and wonder how your life would have changed dramatically if you had chosen a different path? I'm very interested in how you feel about this because life hangs so precariously on each decision we make. For me, I wish I could back in time when I was a teenager and tried to get closer to my father...tried to do things that would have made him proud as opposed to disappointing him. It just seemed like from that point on, I could never gain his respect, although I know he loved me. It is something I do regret, especially since his death in 1999. Anyway, I would love to hear YOUR responses. I know there's many intelligent, sensitive people here at VegWeb.
right now... i wish i had talked to my dad tonight instead of staying quiet because i'm unhappy.... would have saved me from him yelling at me, calling me a bitch a few times, and threatening to kick me out of the house... would save me from a few hours of crying as well...
I wish I had told my mom I loved her, instead of yelling and arguing, the night she died.
My family isn't one to say "I love you" to each other. Our parents never said it to us. So, I'd have to say I would have started saying "I love you" earlier to all my family members.
even though i could always say.. hmm.. i wish my life was like it is but with this difference, i really like myself how i am and my life how it is. i would have no way of knowing how some little thing that i could have done (or not done) in the past would effect my future life. so i would have to say i have no regrets, as cheesy as that sounds.
This is really minute, but a few months ago I was just sitting around thinking about something and suddenly felt this feeling that during my junior year of high school if I had asked the girl I was kind of dating instead of her best friend to prom that my life would be somehow drastically differnt....oh those high school memories.
even though i could always say.. hmm.. i wish my life was like it is but with this difference, i really like myself how i am and my life how it is. i would have no way of knowing how some little thing that i could have done (or not done) in the past would effect my future life. so i would have to say i have no regrets, as cheesy as that sounds.
I agree 100%! I am so happy with my life and who I am -- I wouldn't for a second go back and unlearn the tough but important lessons I had to learn out of mistakes I made in the past. Rock on!
Hmmm....I know exactly what point I'd go back to. I don't think I would actually go through and do it over, even if it was a real possibility.
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The only thing I can think of is that I should have said yes to the person* who asked me to dance at my high school formal.
I am sick of being so damned shy, and every time I think of that moment, I kick myself. I might have made a friend.
*'twas a lovely gay fellow who asked, nonetheless! LOL...
I don't know, there's a lot I regret. but at the time these things were happening, I wasn't really aware of them or in the right mindset to do anything about them. my life is how it is, and I have to deal with that reality.
cryptic, I know...
I notice a couple of people have mentioned loved ones that died.
I have never had anyone close to me die except both my grandfathers, who died when I was still very young. In October, one of my best friends died (I still don't know how/why) and we hadn't seen each other since I moved away over a year ago. If in my whole life I had one thing to do over again it would be the moment I said I don't want to have a long distance relationship. I really did want one with him. I wish I could have seen him and talked to him and told him how much he means to me just one more time before he left forever.
I wish I had told someone in authority about the abuse I was suffering. Though I don't know if it would have worked since my parents hung a "mentally ill" label on me to hide it. All those shrinks, and I never said a word.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have studied filmmaking or screenwriting, and lifted us single-handed out of the Age of the Remake!
I think I would have been more honest to my parents growing up, but to pick a specific thing I would say that I should have asked out my first crush, who liked me but I was too scared to act on it, and that set the pace for a good portion of my life. :)
wormywyrm- your new avatar is soooo cute!!!!
I'm sorry to everyone who has regrets regarding loved one who passed. I too wish I had spent more time with my grandmom before she died.
Another regret would be staying with my highschool boyfriend all through college. He was a possesive jerk & I would have been much better off without him.
If I had it to do over again I wouldn't have gone skinny dipping in Loch Ness all those years ago. People just won't stop talking about it and I'm getting pretty tired of the subject.
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If I had it to do over again I wouldn't have gone skinny dipping in Loch Ness all those years ago. People just won't stop talking about it and I'm getting pretty tired of the subject.
Hehehe! *points and laughs*
No, but seriously - I think that's a really cool thing to do. ;) 8)
Oh gee, where do I start with this one?
I wish I would have stayed in Alaska and finished with my degree up there rather than leave and leave everything I own behind. Or before that, I wish I would have done a degree in biology or horticulture instead of engineering.
My biggest regret: When Shango (my cat) died, I wish I would have taken him to an emergency after hours vet as soon as I noticed that something wasn't right rather than do what I did do. He probably would still be alive today if I would have only taken him to the vet earlier...he didn't deserve to die...OMG it still is very painful and it has been a year since he died.
I would never want to go back and change a single thing in my life....from the gold I have found.....to the lumps of coal that have come my way......
The reason why?
If maybe one single thing happened differently in my life, I might not have come across the lives I've been so lucky to have been part of.....those I had the chance to find....just at the right moment... those starving, or hurt, maybe lost in the woods, wandering on the side of a road....or hit by a car....or left in a shelter to be put down or maybe just lost and somehow forgot about forever...... or....maybe just thrown out and unwanted in a former world that was cruel to them before we crossed paths... Lives that are STILL part of mine (as part of my herd)....or that I released to others (through adoption).....for them to absorb their love and to give them love.....those lives I will never forget. They made me grow. I learned from them. I've seen "hurt" turn into pure joy and bliss. I have. Though I want to add.....with regards to material things.... I may (or may not) have more then most and at times take that for granted....yet there is nothing in this life I have more rewarding then the lives I made a difference for....nothing.
The way I see it...if one single second of my life had been different, I may not have found them and can not even think of what would have happened had our paths not crossed.....that is worth ALL the bad things that I could have hoped to have been better. If not for me....for them.
So.... with this Holiday upon us..that is what I am Thankful for.
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