Reasons to make the O_o Face
There are times when you read, see or hear something that just makes you :o. This is the thread to share them on!
The other day I don't know where I stumbled on a thread discussing the Nancy Drew novels. I remembered how much I loved them and I did a little research...which led me to the original publishers, who also published the Hardy Boys and the Bobbsey Twins. All written by a cadre of ghost writers under cover names. Then I found a link to an audio book of one of the Bobbsey Twins stories, which I loved when I was a kid. I listened to it for old times' sake. The :o happened when the author described little Flossie-aged-four's collection of dolls, among which was a black Sambo doll given to her by the family's "coloured cook Dinah, and her husband the stableman, Sam." Who had "excellent rooms above the stables." They had given her this black worsted ragdoll (named Jujube) which she kept with her other dolls..."but apart, at the other end of the shelf, and with a nice piece of white pasteboard in between--because, well, he wasn't really family."
:o :o
The story goes on to state that Flossie had thought about giving Jujube away but didn't want to hurt Dinah's feelings; "and after all, as Mamma said, there weren't any doll hospitals for black orphan dolls."
No wonder the Bobbsey Twins books went out of fashion. Nancy Drew is still available today...but then there was nothing like that in them.
So, VWers, what made you :o today?
yeah, my husband's little sister is 20, in her second year of a four year degree, and is getting married in 2.5 months. I couldn't imagine being married and going to uni/studying every day. I don't even really know why, but that just sounds really hard/unnatural for me.
But I guess everyone works on a different schedule, and what works for me won't necessarily work for others, so it's all good.
I'm married and I'm awesome, they're certainly not mutually exclusive.
I'm married and I'm awesome, they're certainly not mutually exclusive.
Me too. ;)b
Yes, I agree. :) All three of you (FB, OWW, PG) are all awesome. Maybe I'm taking it too personal and putting too much on my plate. I can't help but feel like there's pressure around me. Blah!
yeah, my husband's little sister is 20, in her second year of a four year degree, and is getting married in 2.5 months. I couldn't imagine being married and going to uni/studying every day. I don't even really know why, but that just sounds really hard/unnatural for me.
But I guess everyone works on a different schedule, and what works for me won't necessarily work for others, so it's all good.
tbh, i'd feel stupid if i rushed to get married while in school and as a result, my grades/whatnot suffered. i'd do it if someone else was handling all the logistics for me (which seems to be the case with most of my classmates), but then there's still all that anxiety.
tbh, i'd feel stupid if i rushed to get married while in school and as a result, my grades/whatnot suffered. i'd do it if someone else was handling all the logistics for me (which seems to be the case with most of my classmates), but then there's still all that anxiety.
yeah, I think that's kind of part of what I feel about it - both the taking time away from study to organise shite, and wanting to spend time together after getting married instead of prioritising school work.
In our first year of marriage, we spent ~8 months backpacking around Europe.
In our second year of marriage, we paid off debt and saved up over $35k for a house deposit.
In our third year we were able to enjoy having our own space, decorating, landscaping, whatever.
For me, it would feel kind of weird if I was just finishing university by the time I'd been married that long, having no savings, no experiences and no job... but that's just me!
In the specific case of my sister-in-law, her mum is helping out a lot, and she also just finished exams last week, so has from now till ~1 month after the wedding with zero academic commitments, so they've been able to leave most things till now to organise now that she has the time.
I'm married and I'm awesome, they're certainly not mutually exclusive.
Me too. ;)b
Likewise.
Yes, I agree. :) All three of you (FB, OWW, PG) are all awesome. Maybe I'm taking it too personal and putting too much on my plate. I can't help but feel like there's pressure around me. Blah!
Being married is great...if you're ready for it and you do it for the right reasons. Getting married because of pressure from people around you, or because you're "that age" or whatever, is not good. It's better to stay single than to get stuck in a bad marriage, IMO.
Yes, I agree. :) All three of you (FB, OWW, PG) are all awesome. Maybe I'm taking it too personal and putting too much on my plate. I can't help but feel like there's pressure around me. Blah!
Oh, the pressure is there, I'm sure.
But marriage does not directly imply procreation. We've been married 29 years come Sunday and no babies or desire for them. Oh, I don't think babies are bad, if you're set up for them, but we're not and that's fine. You wanna talk pressure? Try being married in a Catholic country and *choosing* not to have kids! All the women in DH's family took against me. Married women who don't have kids are sluts, right? We're just in it for the sex and financial security...or so I was told.
Personally I agree with John Frankenheimer's response when asked why he and his wife had no children: "You see, I married her to be with her, and she married me to be with me...and we just didn't feel the need for all the rest of that."
Indeed.
Yes, I agree. :) All three of you (FB, OWW, PG) are all awesome. Maybe I'm taking it too personal and putting too much on my plate. I can't help but feel like there's pressure around me. Blah!
Oh, the pressure is there, I'm sure.
But marriage does not directly imply procreation. We've been married 29 years come Sunday and no babies or desire for them. Oh, I don't think babies are bad, if you're set up for them, but we're not and that's fine. You wanna talk pressure? Try being married in a Catholic country and *choosing* not to have kids! All the women in DH's family took against me. Married women who don't have kids are sluts, right? We're just in it for the sex and financial security...or so I was told.
Personally I agree with John Frankenheimer's response when asked why he and his wife had no children: "You see, I married her to be with her, and she married me to be with me...and we just didn't feel the need for all the rest of that."
Indeed.
Agreed. I like that sentiment. For me, it extends to being partners i.e. in a loving partnership, and not necessarily getting married. Marriage is not for everyone; and not everyone who isn't married is single, or sleeping around. :)
Yes, I agree. :) All three of you (FB, OWW, PG) are all awesome. Maybe I'm taking it too personal and putting too much on my plate. I can't help but feel like there's pressure around me. Blah!
Just remember Joshy, when you're feeling all that pressure to get married....
....marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering! :D
I was always told that when a woman gets married she thinks of three religiious things: Aisle, Altar, Hymn.
(Thinkaboudit).
I didn't. Maybe that's why it's 29 years so far.
Wow! Thank you all for your input about marriage, relationships, babies and life experience. I loved reading your stories and I hope to share/hear more with you into the future. I think all of you (FB, OWW, LLG, PG, Storm, Heli and Yabbit) are all awesome ladies. I sincerely mean that. I'm happy I've 'met' you all. :)
That said..
...marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering! :D
I was always told that when a woman gets married she thinks of three religiious things: Aisle, Altar, Hymn.
(Thinkaboudit).
:-D You both are nuts.
-Josh
I wouldn't mind having a serious relationship but (with my ladyman) I want to do things like explore the world, the country, nature, museums, and historical places. I want us to see concerts, plays, musicals, and orchestras. I want us to learn from, educate and challenge each other. I want us to help other people and fight for causes.
My thoughts exactly....
You wanna talk pressure? Try being married in a Catholic country and *choosing* not to have kids! All the women in DH's family took against me. Married women who don't have kids are sluts, right? We're just in it for the sex and financial security...or so I was told.
O...M...G. I am astounded that anyone has this idea in their head, let alone the audacity to say it out loud. Such a ballsy proclamation.
woman getting married just for the sex... there are so many things about that phrase that defy stereotypes.
yet apparently it is one?
No, they were just being nasty. They were good at it. I haven't spoken to my BIL's wife for years. Now you know why.
Years ago we were considering having a child, and when I mentioned it at a family gathering, thinking I might juuust get a tiiiiiny amount of encouragement if not approval, she said, "You? You don't care for kids, and can't raise one." (It sounded a LOT worse in Spanish, and that's going some.)
I asked DH for the keys to the car. He said, "You can't drive!" I said, "No, I just need to get somewhere I can sit by myself and calm down before I kill someone."
yg <3
My mom. :o I need out. :o
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9C_HReR_McQ
Seriously watch the whole thing.
My mom. :o I need out. :o
^ my thoughts when I spend more than a few hours with mine
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