That being said, certain threads do annoy me.  I really, really don't get offended, so I can't say that.  I get tired of the ED threads, I get tired of people whose only posts are to complain or ask for sympathy.  Know what I do?  I ignore them.  The ED issue, the smoking issue, lots of other things also pop up in unrelated threads.  NOT JUST SEX.

i agree with this too.  i really, really, agree with this..

and i also get annoyed sometimes when i get left hanging on a topic thats been hijacked and it seems like everyones forgotton the original post and the question never gets answered.  the worst part is when i do a search for something and then have to sort thru pages of distracted stuff before i find my answer.  but even then - i look at it like people having a conversation in person.. something always triggers a thought on a new topic and the conversation turns - it's just how conversations evolve naturally.  i get over it.

The common vibe seems to be that if someone comes across something that offends them, they skim through it or move on.  Why then couldn’t we read PP’s post, note what she said and move on?

Because she said it with the clear sense that she wanted some sort of outcome from it.  She made it separate so that we could all see it.  She directed the conversation specifically at the people who have different views and gave them instructions: not to assume that everyone is comfortable with sexual talk.  The post was clearly written with the intention of communicating a message to those with opposite views.

You don't post about something that's bothering you without expecting some sort of response.  I think it would have been rude if we all ignored the post.  It would have told her, yeah, we don't really care if you hold that opinion.  When someone says, "I want to let you know I feel this way," ignoring it is totally inappropriate and downright rude.

good point. but i think some people on here felt like they were personally being criticized

I felt personally criticized.  Let's not skirt things--we KNOW the types of recent conversations PP is referring to, and it's not sex in the mashed potatoes threads.  I will speak for myself--just a few days ago I posted about my largely physical relationship with a guy.  Others joined me in this conversation (Open Letters thread-->Moratorium thread).  Subsequently, PP posts that it makes her sad and angry to hear this type of talk, and that she thinks people who behave this way are being disrespectful and foolish.

I'm really having trouble understanding how it is out of line to respond to this when the sequence of events is glaring right at us.  The original post was not just a statement of "This is my opinion about this topic," it was "What you are doing upsets me."

Yes.  And I TRIED to get concrete suggestions for how to compromise, but I was met with, "Oh no, well, I'm not trying to judge or single people out."  You didn't try to, but you did.  Intentions and outcomes don't always align.

I've kept pretty quiet about this, but I have a few things to touch on (no pun or innuendo intended).

First off:

The common vibe seems to be that if someone comes across something that offends them, they skim through it or move on.  Why then couldn’t we read PP’s post, note what she said and move on?

Because of this:

I’m not meaning this a as a judgement or lecture or sermon or anything else – I just wanted to express that this makes me sad and sometimes even kind of angry to hear sex thrown around so flippantly. I KNOW not everyone shares my viewpoint on this and I don’t expect them to – but I have a really hard time understanding how one can be so casual about the only thing that they can give to another person that is uniquely theirs. Additionally, I strongly believe that even though one may not initially realize or admit it, there are a lot of emotional and psychological consequences to cheapening sex to something purely physical and meaningless – maybe not right away – but further down the road.

Sex isn't special or meaningful to me because I talk about it?  That doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever.  I have had sex with two people and both either do or did mean the world to me.  Regardless of the intent or what was meant to be said, this statement comes across as very condescending and judgemental, and in my opinion is more offensive than any slang word that I could type referring to a body part or sex act.  That is why we couldn't just let it go.  That is a very broad generalization to make and not expect it to strike a nerve.

Secondly:

That doesn't mean I can't watch what I say or post when I know there are minors using the board.

I can understand this, but at the same time it seems a little asinine.  Should the people who post on adultfriendfinder take down their nude pictures of themselves just because a kid who shouldn't be there in the first place decided to create a fake account?  No.
Do you think that you should be the one that would have to leave an R rated movie because some underage teens snuck into the theatre?  No.
Should I censor what I type just because a kid decided to make an account on an adult website?  No.
This is an adult website.  You create a profile telling others whether or not you're looking for a relationship and if you're interested in having children.
Also, you guys and gals can believe this or not, but I actually do restrain myself from posting certain things sometimes.
To be honest, what child doesn't know about sex at this time in human history anyway?  I learned about sex from a friend when I was 8 years old.
I didn't have sex until I was close to 20.

Anyway, I digress.  I don't think we should censor ourselves on an adult website based on a hypothetical "what if" possibility.
I also think its pointless to have sex talk only in designated threads.  If a kid manages to find the forums, they're going to see the sex talk anyway, and probably more of it.

Thirdly:
Ask a comedian how they come up with their material and they would probably say something like 'if it doesn't offend somebody, it isn't funny.'
What I'm trying to say with that statement is that all of us are offended by something.  Sexual innuendos / discussions, religion, politics, vulgar language, homophobia, etc., etc.  If we have to censor one thing, then we also need to censor everything that could offend anybody, and that just isn't going to happen on the internet.  Since I have been posting here, I've seen countless fat people jokes, man (as in male) hate, southerners are stupid references, and other things.  These all hit me in personal ways because a) I'm overweight, b) I am a male, and c), I live in the south.  I could easily get upset or offended, but instead I just laugh it off, maybe make a joke about it, and carry on.  There's no point in me getting pissed off at something that I read on the internet.  That's just a waste of time and energy.

And finally, fourthly:
PP, I'm truly sorry that you had something terrible happen to you.  Whoever did whatever to you obviously deserves an ass kicking and having a glass tube shoved up his pee hole and smashed so everytime he uses the restroom it will be the most excruciating pain ever.  But alas, that still wouldn't be enough.
With that said, I personally think that it would be a good thing for you to talk about what happened; get it off of your chest, cry about it, just get it out there.  I'm glad to hear that you are working on healing yourself.  Don't let this stop you from living your life, otherwise he wins.  And I also agree with Cali, don't sell yourself short.  YOU are the most unique thing you can give someone.

I think I'm done at the moment...

That was deep ck.  You get a +1 from me.  You should have let me post first, so your words would have been on top.  (I'm comfortable being a bottom.  ^-^ )

To KMK, CK, and anyone else I (unintentionally) offended with my word choice,

I absolutely did not mean to generalize that your own sexual choices were not meaningful and special to you – but I can see your point that this was unclear from my words. I will own that and apologize for it if you (or anyone else) felt personally attacked, condescended or singled out.

When I talked in my original post about sex being cheapened to something purely physical, and people making statements that were flippant, I was not referring to anyone in particular talking about their own choices or experiences. I was referring to my personal feeling that when sexual statements, jokes or innuendos are repeatedly made, in casual conversation, to an unknown audience, for the purposes of entertaining each other or, “ha ha, that’s funny,” its just that part that’s visible for the world to see – the physical part and nothing else. In those situations, all of those feelings, emotions, commitments, and promises that make sex special get taken out of it. I don’t think it is that far of a stretch to suggest that over time, in a world where this is the norm and not the exception, it might be possible for some people to become desensitized to the emotional component, or never develop an awareness of it to begin with. Along the lines of watching the death toll in a war tick by on the news every day in a little emotionless box.

Peace,
PP

You know, as long as some one isn't trolling for a booty call I don't see the harm. Then a again if the dude running the "horny vegan"  (www.hornyvegan.com)  project ever get's it togather this may be a mute point.
Till then here's a few after dark ones
www.veganerotica.com
www.Vegporn.com
http://veganica.com/info/links.php?theme_id=8